A little wine, cheese, good friends, and a good book. What more could a girl want? Jonathan Tropper’s novel This Is Where I Leave You is coming to theaters on September 19, and the dramatic comedy promises to prod every bit of funny out of the dynamics of family dysfunction in the aftermath of a father’s funeral. I love reading the book, before seeing a move. Don’t you?
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I told you a couple of weeks ago about my This Is Where I Leave You Book Club plans, and this past Friday the girls gathered to dish about the book. We had a lot of fun. You know I can’t have a gathering without whipping up something yummy to eat, so I made some scrumptious Baked Goat Cheese Dip served with crisp baguettes.
It’s safe to say that we have all enjoyed reading this book. I’m not quite finished reading yet, but will be sure to do so before the movie release date of September 19. This is one of those books that will make you laugh out loud, but also get you a bit teary eyed at times. If you are thinking about having your own This Is Where I Leave You book club, but aren’t sure where to get started, here are some great discussion questions you can use.
This Is Where I Leave You Discussion Questions
1. Discuss Judd Foxman, the novel’s protagonist, from his very ironic and dry sense of humor (shared also by his brothers and sister), to his anger and vulnerability regarding his wife’s infidelity, to his conflicted emotions regarding his immediate family. What was your first impression of the protagonist/narrator of this novel? What did you find the most engaging aspect of his character? Did you find any aspect of him off-putting?
2. What was your first impression of Judd’s wife, Jen? Because you see her almost entirely from Judd’s perspective, was there any chance to see her as a sympathetic character before Judd finds her so? Do you think that Judd and Jen have a chance at salvaging their relationship, with or without a baby girl to raise?
3. Discuss Judd’s mother and her relationship with each of her children. Do you think that Hillary Foxman was truly a bad mother? Was there any real irony in her being a child-rearing guru? What was your opinion of her character?
4. One of the largest subjects of the book is parenting. Discuss the various parents in the book (Judd and Jen; Wendy and Barry; Hillary and Mort; Linda) and consider the statement (or statements) that Tropper makes about the responsibilities of a parent to his or her child, and, conversely, the responsibilities of a child to his or her parent.
5. Similarly, what comment is Tropper making about the role of trauma and tragedy in our lives? Almost every character in this book suffers or has suffered: Phillip from his neglected/overindulged childhood; Judd from his wife’s infidelity; Horry from his brain damage; Paul from the Rottweiler attack; Wendy from her unhappy marriage; and Alice from her infertility. What does their unhappiness, and the way each person copes with that unhappiness, teach us?
6. Most of the characters in this novel struggle against living up to an ideal established either by themselves or by a friend, family member, or spouse. Judd fails to be the perfect husband, brother, and son; Jen fails to be the perfect wife; Wendy fails to be the perfect mother and Alice fails to become a mother at all. Mort and Hillary Foxman, it turns out, fail their children spectacularly in some ways while succeeding in others. What do the lives of these characters reveal to us about perfectionism, ideals, and our expectations for ourselves and others?
7. Also, compare and contrast the various romantic relationships in this book: who, do you think, had the most admirable or lasting relationship? Who had the most realistic one? Who had the most insurmountable problems? (Is there such a thing as an insurmountable problem, especially looking at problems from Phillip’s point of view?)
8. For all of their faults, is the Foxman clan a likeable group of people? What makes them an endearing group of people? Who did you like the most, and who did you find the least appealing, and why? Were there any characters you would have liked to see developed further?
9. Throughout the book Judd has recurring nightmares that often involve a prosthetic limb. Discuss the way these dreams acted as elements of foreshadowing and symbolism throughout the narrative. Consider, too, how they reflected Judd’s emotional state as the novel progresses.
10. What did you think of Judd’s exit at the end of the shiva? Was his disappearance in Phillip’s Porsche realistic? Appropriate? Did you find it a satisfying resolution to the book?
What will you serve at your This Is Where I Leave You book club gathering? I suggest keeping it simple. At my book club gathering, we had Baked Goat Cheese Dip served with toasted baguettes, fresh fruit, and wine — but of course. The goat cheese dip is so simple to make. Here’s the recipe:
Baked Goat Cheese Dip
12 ounces goat cheese
1 teaspoon Italian seasoning
1/2 teaspoon red pepper flakes
4-5 sprigs fresh thyme, chopped
1 tablespoon olive oil
fresh cracked pepper
additional olive oil to drizzle over the top
sliced baguette or crackers for serving
In a bowl, stir and combine the first five ingredients. Spoon into a a small greased baking dish. Sprinkle the top with some fresh cracked pepper.
Bake at 325 degrees for 15 to 20 minutes, until golden brown. Remove from the oven and sprinkle with additional olive oil. Serve warm.
This Is Where I Leave You – In Theaters September 19
The dramatic comedy “This is Where I Leave You” is directed by Shawn Levy, and based on the hilarious and poignant best-selling novel by Jonathan Tropper. It features a starring ensemble cast including Golden Globe winner Jason Bateman (“Arrested Development”); Golden Globe and Emmy Award winner Tina Fey (“30 Rock”); and two-time Oscar® winner, multiple Golden Globe honoree and 2013 Emmy Award nominee Jane Fonda (“Klute,” “Coming Home,” HBO’s “The Newsroom”).
When their father passes away, four grown siblings, bruised and banged up by their respective adult lives, are forced to return to their childhood home and live under the same roof together for a week, along with their over-sharing mother and an assortment of spouses, exes and might-have-beens. Confronting their history and the frayed states of their relationships among the people who know and love them best, they ultimately reconnect in hysterical and emotionally affecting ways amid the chaos, humor, heartache and redemption that only families can provide—driving us insane even as they remind us of our truest, and often best, selves.
Starring: Jason Bateman, Tina Fey, Adam Driver, Rose Byrne, Corey Stoll, Kathryn Hahn, Connie Britton, Timothy Olyphant, Dax Shepard and Jane Fonda
If you don’t have your own book club, you can totally join the virtual book club that Warner Bros. Pictures’ is hosting on Facebook. Also, follow the #TIWILY #TIWILYbookclub hashtags on Twitter and Instagram to see more book club discussion.
-Visit the official website
-Like This is Where I Leave You on Facebook
-Follow @wbpictures on Twitter and Instagram
– Hashtags to follow #TIWILY #TIWILYbookclub
Ready to read the book and see the movie? One lucky About A Mom reader will win a copy of Jonathan Tropper’s This Is Where I Leave You, along with a $25 Visa Gift Card to go see the movie, opening on September 19. Giveaway ends on September 14, 2014 at 11:59pm ET. Open to US.
I prefer to read the book before watching the film adaptation but sometimes I end up watching the movie first. I want to read this book b/c I enjoy books about family relationships.
Amanda Sakovitz says
I do like to read the book before the movie. I would love to win because this book seems really interesting.
I would much rather watch the movie first, and I’ll compare the book at a later date. I would love to have this book for my book club.
Betty C says
I agree with a previous comment that movies rarely live up to the book. There have a been a few occasions that I liked a movie so much I read the book even though I had not planned to. I much prefer books over movies. I’d like to read this book because it sounds like an interesting family dynamic and I’d like to see the conclusion.
Thomas Murphy says
I do like to read the book before seeing the movie. I would serve cheese and crackers and cupcakes at my own book club gathering.
I like to read a book before the movie because I like to imagine the story for myself before seeing another’s interpretation of the story.
I wouldn’t like to read the book before watching the movie, because sometimes I get disappointed at the details that get left out of a movie after I have read the book. I want to read the book after I watch the movie because it looks interesting and it may fill in the gaps if the movie doesn’t cover it all!
Donna M Byrd says
I love to read the Books first because my Imagination seems to be always better than the Movies lol
I really enjoyed my book club with my girlfriends. We only read books that were going to be made into movies so we could have another excuse to get together (going to see the movie). We haven’t gotten together in so long!
TerriAnn @ Cookies & Clogs says
That sounds like a lovely appetizer for your club. I’m sure everyone loves it when they meet at your house 🙂 The book must be interesting to spur on such deep conversations!